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    coming out party finally hits australia. although they didn't think i am that funny. this, from the country whose biggest comedic achievement is crocodile dundee. screw them!
    "hooking up in the real world," hosted by coral and myself. it ended up pretty good.
    "coming out" stories told by comedians and writers. not a comedy show, per se, but is often funny.

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    You're so cute. That is all.


    nice story, i love the " hi bro" part eheheh.


    Isn't it funny how we change around big butch straight men? Don't worry Dan, I do this too.


    Heh... I do that under similar circumstances. I don't have much "gayness" in my life, but the transition is about the same.

    The only thing I can't do is talk about sports beyond the limits of what I know - which is basically the 1986 Mets-Red Sox World Series.

    It is kinda fun, cause... ya never know. But it's always good to make sure you KNOW he's straight. That way when you're suddenly sucking his dick, you'll be amazingly surprised =)

    Kamasutra Jones

    This guy sounds hawt! We want pics, Dan! ;-)


    Oh, Dan, you make me giggle. I so enjoy following your adventures. Keep us posted on this one for sure! Enjoy your weekend! :)


    i love when we are blasted to the past and act like 12 years old kids... i do that so often i wonder if i'm really 25.


    I hadn't really thought about it, but it is true that we do butch up a bit around straight friends and aquaintances. I pondered this and realized that I really enjoy the opportunity that straight friendships offer me to slouch and say bro and slap backs, etc. You can't be fabulous all the time. It's exhausting.


    David (above) is right. Sometimes we just need to relax and not impress anyone, and sometimes straight guys are good for that.

    I work with an ex-football player who is huge and reminds me a bit of young Lou Ferrigno in appearance. He is straight, and seems unhomophobic & unphased if I mention anything gay-related, yet since he is such a hard-core masculine kind of guy, I tread kind of carefully around him for about 8 months. Then I started noticing how he really seemed to like me and seek me out for conversations. But I still feel like I should act as "masculine" as I can around him.

    I think maybe we underestimate these guys... perhaps. Dunno. But I do also think there are some guys like this that take a longer period of time to be comfortable letting go of their macho facade... and that's OK. We all evolve and learn things at our own pace. That doesn't mean we can't learn from each other in the meantime.


    What I love about my straight buddies is we are intimate in a pre-sexual way, like when I had best friends as a child. The sexual thing doesn't come in, but the non-sexual male love is great - and if the sex thing does come up, its usually from the straight guy who wants to explore his 'gay' side. I never go there because I would/could lose the friendship, plus if they need to explore that side they can find a stranger and do it to know they don't like it as much as the ladies (or not?). But cool straight guys can be fantastic friends - and they give great gay love advice too sometimes... It was something I had lost after my teens...

    Of course this has nothing to do with the hot straight hunk who Dan is lusting over.


    "I don't feel like a guy often."

    That last statement is very profound, Dan...for you and for a lot of us non-gays. It never occurred to me and I can imagine how strange that must feel.

    I'm a single mother and have had to grow tough skin as a result. I've had to do battle with school administrators, teachers, absent fathers, dumb doctors, lazy lawyers, landlords, etc. (Obviously, I did not have tons of money or none of this would've been an issue, I'm sure.) I think I mourn the soft woman I never got to be. I'm not butch or anything, but I see super gentle feminine women and I marvel. I feel a certain sadness and envy.


    I think a lot of straight men just want friendships and don't care if the person is gay or not. They want to be accepted the same way we all do. Plus, you are a super nice guy too Dan. :)


    LOL! I thought I was the only gay guy that does this around straight men. I take it one step further though, by staring at every woman that walks on by so that the straight guys think that I'm interested in women, not men. I then go home and rinse my eyes out with bleach.


    Dan, I'm straight, and I feel the exact same way all the time. It ain't just you, bud, and it's not because you're gay.

    Be yourself. Always. :)

    Evil Beet

    I'm neither a gay man nor a man at all, but it still surprises me sometimes how, when taken out of my element, my behavior shifts to match those around me. You know, I'm a big important grown-up now, with a graduate degree and a successful career and lots of friends who love me for me, and I still won't jog around the track at the local high school when the cheerleaders are practicing nearby, lest they mock me. I think everyone feels that way from time to time. :)

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