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    Jules

    Dan, I can see why you'd post these entries, but this is really sad. I wonder about him/her and hope they're ok. Is that weird? Probably. But I still do.
    Jules
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    Suebob

    I think this is actually pretty cool. It makes me think "And I thought that MY food issues were bad." Not in a judgmental way - it gives me more compassion.

    Lucy

    This is too sad. I can't.

    Debbie

    This is quite sad.

    chris

    I generally like writing shitty comments....but this even makes me feel sad for the woman.

    Sound like she has many issues going on: Low self esteem, over-eating, drinking and probably strong ups&downs (bi-polar).

    Hopefully she will be able to modify behaviors. Not sure though...

    Nate

    Thanks for posting these; I hope there's more to come. This is one of those things that so many people suffer with silently. Hearing this voice may help someone seek help of their own.

    Marie

    Please post more. This is fascinating. Thanks.

    David

    Just reading this I could feel the chaos inside this person. Terrifying.

    Adinda

    Yes, it's terrifying, but fascinating. Personally I'd like to read more.

    Vee

    I wish I could be so honest with myself sometimes.

    Lori

    I would also like to see more entries from this journal. You can't help but to feel bad for this person. I hope she's okay. It sounds like she really needed a good friend to help her through it...hopefully she found the help that she needed.

    Hephaestion

    This is heart-breaking to read. I'm glad you posted it.
    I do not think medical science has ANY clue as to what makes people overeat or what makes people gain weight, which can be two different issues since some people gain weight without overeating. Medical science refuses to admit that they are clueless about obesity, but they are. There needs to be far more study of this subject done, because it's getting worse worldwide now, and no one has a CLUE what to do about it.

    Liz

    Being a compulsive over eater is reverse of being anorexic. They are different sides of the same coin. I spent part of my summer with a compulsive over eater who is still in her addiction and it was rough. She tried to white knuckle it when I was around but she was cranky and defensive. When we would separate, she would return in a whole different, more pleasent mood. Hmm I wonder why?

    Dave

    Dan, I sat here for quite some time before I knew where to start.

    As a person in 12 step recovery for my own issues, I find it very sad that you chose to print this person's private thoughts. I realize that you blanked out names, but the fact of the matter is that if somehow the owner of this book discovered what had been done with it, they would feel victimized.

    Even if that person doesn't find out, I, as I'm sure other 12 step members would, feel some sort of violation. To treat someone's deepest personal pain as some sort of side show attraction is reprehensible. How does it make you any better than the people that did not treat her with respect in her younger years?

    You may say that if she wanted to keep it private she wouldn't have left it behind. But nobody knows her state of mind when she left that apartment. She may have hit rock bottom in her life and left without consideration to what might be done with her things, let alone taking the time to pack everything up.

    I am also very saddened by all of the comments asking you to post more of this private journal. I'm ashamed for all of you. This is not some piece of pulp fiction meant to entertain the great unwashed. This is somebody's life. Somebody's pain. To feel that you need to read more because you are "fascinated" says more about you than it does about the writer.

    I'm sure many of you voyeurs would say that you are genuinely concerned for the woman. If this is the case, let me assure you there are other ways to help out people such as her. There is no shortage of opportunities to volunteer to help people with physical, emotional and spiritual problems.

    Dan, I really hope you have a change of heart and will not post more of this private journal. If this is all you can come up with to put on your blog, perhaps it's time to call it quits.

    kels

    "This is not some piece of pulp fiction meant to entertain the great unwashed."

    Dave, I think you're the only one who looks at it that way.

    My response after reading this was "that sounds a little like me." Like this Anonymous Overeater, I have moments of clarity when I confront my food issues, but mostly I push these realizations down and ignore what I'm doing.

    I am confident that none of the other readers perceive this as a "side show" display. Some readers without addictive personalities get a glimpse of what it's like to be out of control, and some, like me, will be helped by this person's situation that resembles our own.

    If the diary's author were to stumble across this site, she should be glad to see the support and well-wishes we are offering. I wish I had the bravery to admit to myself the things she wrote about in this workbook.

    Thank you, Dan. You did good for me by posting this.

    Jayne

    Sorry Kels...I can see your points, but I'm with Dave on this one.

    =(

    Justin

    Interesting comments - I had a totally different reaction from Dave, and Jayne, but I'm glad to see another perspective through their posts.

    My thoughts: Reading this entry, for many people, may be the first realization that they're not alone in their struggles with food issues, etc. Is it 'ethical/right/etc.' for Dan to publish? Maybe/maybe not . . . if it results in someone seeking the help they need, does that make it okay? I guess I'm with Dave/Jayne, after much thought - it would be more appropriate if she or he published his or her thoughts on their own. Still, I'm always amazed at the power of our own words, and sharing our own stories.

    JM

    As a member of Overeaters Anonymous, one of its main tenants is anonymity...the principles state that we must always maintain anonymity in press and other media, which a blog is. However, the overriding OA principle is to help the overeater who is still suffering and this might do that. It would have been more helpful if you lined to the OA web site or offered some additional perspective as to where to get help...as the post stands, it seems that you are taking advantage of this woman's story to use as fodder for discussion and sensationalism, which is too bad. Food addiction is serious, life threatening and epidemic. It is not a trivial matter to be bandied about like a sports result or political speech. I guess at the end of the day is this litmus test: How would you feel if your words were published without your knowledge or consent?

    If you are suffering from compulsive eating, please contact an OA group in your area, attend some meetings (they are free--there are no dues or fees in any 12 step program) and see if it works for you. Don't give up, there is help out there.

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