I WANT TO SEE A 'GAY VS STRAIGHT' CHALLENGE. DO YOU THINK IT WILL EVER HAPPEN?
We have all pleaded for this show to happen. Ruthie, Danny, Genesis, Shane, Aneesa, Rachel, myself...all the gay Real World/Road Rules have begged the producers to do this show. And many, many of our heterosexual counterparts from the shows have stepped up to volunteer their services for the game as well, and fight for the championship of straightkind. Although I honestly think our side would pull it together and win.
Some executives fear it would be considered offensive; no one would ever have a 'Black vs White' Challenge, for instance. But to those people, I say this: Lighten up! Put the political-correctness away! I think the show would be hysterical. And it would also be pretty compelling...a lot of the guys from these shows really struggle with the fact that they can sometimes be beat by females--never mind gay men. (Gasp!)
We'll see if MTV ever convinces advertisers to sponsor a show like this...maybe someday. They have occasional episodes of gay dating shows, so hopefully it won't be too far in the future.
I HOOKED UP WITH A GUY, AND IT WAS REALLY GREAT--BUT THEN THE NEXT MORNING OVER BREAKFAST, HE STARTED TELLING ME STORIES ABOUT HIS BOYFRIEND! HE SEEMS REALLY HAPPY WITH HIS BOYFRIEND. I LIKE THIS GUY--DO YOU THINK HE'LL FALL FOR ME, AND MAYBE I HAVE A CHANCE?
Sweetie, no. You do not have a chance. Do not get naked with this man again.
First of all, is he "cheating?" Or is he in one of those "open relationships" that some people seem to enjoy? If he's cheating, well...that's a tough call, there are lots of variables you would need to consider. So we'll leave that for now.
But I am a hard-core traditionalist, I believe in "true love," the happily-ever-after, the whole thing. I know too many situations where open relationships are just a way for one person in a relationship to fuck around, without having to go out there in the world being "single" again; and the other just goes along with it because s/he doesn't want to lose this person that s/he really loves. I think it's so, so sad.
Don't get me wrong, open relationships work for some people. I know lots of people who think sex only has meaning if you want it to, so who you fuck has nothing to do with who you love. And that works for them. Rock on. But judging from this letter, you want this guy all to yourself. If you like this guy, there's nothing casual about the sex anymore. You can't turn your emotions off like they have a switch. So continuing to sleep with this guy and not get emotionally attached would be like telling an overweight person to eat chocolate and not gain more weight. You can't fight the laws of nature.
So go find a fuck-buddy that you truly don't want to have a relationship with, if you must. Or better yet, take a big breath and brave it on your own for a while. Hopefully someday the man of your dreams will find you. Remember, you deserve nothing but the best. We all do. Don't wait for a knight in shining armor to ride up on a white horse, or anything delusional like that; figure out that one thing that makes you happy. And then never, ever settle for anything less. Good luck, sweetie.